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"Befriend The Other Woman"

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I truly don't get women that claim that they can't get along with other women just because they're ... women? I just don't get it. In fact, I think talk about women not being capable of getting along with each other is absolutely ridiculous. Every woman out there is your competitor? Every single one of us? Are you sure?

So when I read this BRILLIANT manifesto I cheered audibly. It doesn't hurt that it's illustrated with the world of Mad Men. You guys know how I feel about that show.

Ladies, please read the entire post on and pass it on.

Here's a taste for you:
Here are some rules about how to be a girl in a boys' club. This works for any world you're in or want to be in. Pretty much everything in the world is still a boys' club.

Befriend The Other Woman: Always. Seriously. Even if she sucks (expansion on "if she sucks" follows below). Otherwise you will be "jokingly" put into competition with her constantly, and you will be encouraged and generally provoked by some dudes to do this for their entertainment to take focus off the fact that they are in homosocial competition with each other. Befriend her and press your boobs against the glass ceiling together (copyright Kristen Schaal). She is not the enemy. She is never your enemy. The enemy is always any guys who are creating situations that limit the number of females allowed. Get them in the crosshairs and take them down.

Yes! Sing it, sister! Now go and read the rest!

Via HelenJane, a fabulous lady friend I met at a girl's weekend. Thank you, girl!

Reader Comments (3)

Confession time. I used to be one of those women who'd say that I don't like/get along with other women. Or that other women don't seem to like me.
Which is really weird because I was raised by a single Mom in an all female household. Even the dog was a girl. Maybe because of all the ultra femme, and frankly man hating dogma I grew up with made me feel negative about my own sex.
Maybe I was just being an asshole. Maybe, like the brilliant essay by Molly suggested I was so gripped with my own insecurities that I lashed out.
Yeah, could be.
Well, that was then, this is now.
I have since put aside all that bullshite and made friends with some very awesome ladies. People who not only get me but who egg me on even though we are very different in personality. They let me be me, quirks and all.
Cheers to all the awesome girls!

February 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterKathleen

I'm glad you've given the rest of us a chance, because you sound like a cool chick ;)

February 24, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterRoxanna

And (doh) I used to say that too, until I learned this truth in college.

March 7, 2011 | Unregistered CommenterHelen Jane

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